Decisions Must Be Made
I made the mistake of trying to have a conversation with my husband the other night. You would think after 27 years I would know better. I know I sound horrible but here it goes. And for the person who reads this and knows I’m talking about her…..no names were exchanged. Of course that means the entire conversation is not in here. You’ll get the gist.
Me: This is one funny story. One of my blog friends has the most hilarious happenings at work and I just find myself rolling.
Him: Yeah (Big talker when it’s about me).
Me: She never tells anyone where she lives but I figured it out. She kept saying little things and I finally got it.
Him: Yeah (Remember, big talker).
Me: She’s in --------.
Him: What a ----hole! Nothing to see for miles.
Me: I like that.
Him: You would. There’s no people.
Me: That’s right. (I would be a hermit if I could).
Him: How can you like it when there’s nothing there and the wind never stops?
Me: I think it’s beautiful.
Him: You’ve never been there. It isn’t like where we used to live. (His voice level is rising at this point).
He continues: I’m telling you it’s bad. Why would anyone want to live there? (Voice level still rising).
Me: You and I are very different.
Him: I don’t understand why anyone would want to live there. I really don’t. (Still rising). You don’t know so don’t tell me you do!
Silence while I collect my thoughts……
Me: Why are so pushy about this?
Him: Well….. (Then he walks off).
You see every conversation is difficult. I started this conversation trying to share a story I found funny. It ended up with him practically yelling at me. Once again he was trying to make me feel like an idiot. WELL IT DIDN’T WORK. All it did was tick me off.
I have to make some decisions. I cannot continue to do this. He has a serious self esteem issue and I’m tired of dealing with it because he refuses to look at his own issues. If anyone tells you that another person can change, don’t believe them unless they are taking a hard look at themselves. Otherwise it’s all talk.