Sunday, January 30, 2011

I No Longer Fit The Mold

Have you ever noticed how the people around you expect you to be a certain way? In other words, they want you to fit a mold. For a mom, it is the hardest part of her life.

For me it has become more and more of an issue. There is large part of me that has been pushed aside for many years for others. It isn’t any different for most moms I just chose to do something a lot of them don’t do. I started college after they were grown. I now have dreams that I did not think I would ever have the opportunity to experience. This seems to cause problems for those who want me to fit a mold.

To fit that mold would mean that I give up everything I want to do or experience because others have a plan for me. Don’t think I have regrets. I do not regret the path I have taken to this point. I would not have my kids and that would have been a horrible thing. My dilemma is simple. When do I start living my life the way I choose? I am, after all, a person with feelings and dreams. My dreams were put in a box for a very long time. They are not the same as they were 30 years ago, but they still involve experiencing new things.

I’m at a crossroad in my life and I need to make a decision. The decision could make or break me.


  1. You get one shot at it the way you want to live it and don't be swayed by others. If you need to follow a great example then look no further...we got rid of 'Son' in January (he left home at last!)and I started writing a book in February. Travelled to destinations we couldn't when he lived at home or was younger. Took up hobbies in March, April, May, June, started a blog in July etc...
    Now just go and have as good a time as you can. :)

  2. You need YOU time. Don't be in a box. I was there for 22 years and should have spoke out sooner, perhaps things would be different. And the only molds we should be in are the ones we make...not someone else's. I didn't really know that until now in my life. It was too easy just to go along and adapt because women are so good at that. You will make the right decision...whatever it is...whatever is good for you. Someone else made a big decision for me...and at the time I was crushed, but it was a great change. Just not as easy as peaches. But sometimes the greatest things in life come the hard way. Hugs.