I found a video on CNN where a clinical psychologist and the mother of a 5 year old boy were interviewed. The uproar leading to this interview was regarding the boy’s choice of Halloween costume. He wanted to be Daphne from Scooby Doo. Yes, a boy, wanted to have a girl costume for Halloween. And I repeat he is 5. What happened because his parents decided to support him in this choice was ABSOLUTELY RIDICULOUS!
At the school Halloween party, several other mothers from the class decided to take it upon themselves to berate the boy’s mom for allowing him to wear that costume. Keep in mind that none of the other kids said anything negative to him about his choice. Because of that, mom decided to make a post on her blog about the incident and her feelings about it. She has since received almost 20,000 comments about it. Luckily, most of them are positive.
I take issue with some of what the psychologist had to say because he feels that the boy is gay and the mother outed him on her blog. Again he’s 5. I’m not sure if a 5 year old can say what or who he is just yet. I have seen many kids be drawn to the opposite sex in ways that some people believe does not fit the mold. Here’s an example and it is a personal one. In Kindergarten, my daughter wanted to dress in camouflage for Halloween. She didn’t want to wear a skirt of camouflage she wanted to wear a headband, pants, and the camouflage makeup. Some would argue she was dressing like a boy. Well guess what? That same child has her own child and has been with the father of that child for many years now. She is not gay. She was 5 at time of the camo outfit.
So the parents of the other kids had an issue with that boy’s costume. Now I learn of another incident involving 12 year olds who did not like a girl’s name. They felt it was too masculine a name. So she got beat up by several of these bullies in school because of her name. It’s “Randi” by the way. That story can be found here. What adds to this story as being so horrible is that the beating was caught on video at the school and no one called the authorities. (Of course the parents of the victim haven’t either). I find that disturbing. Not only is bullying allowed by the school, they apparently do not have to call the police when they SEE A CRIME!!! I find that to be a most disturbing aspect of this. We send our children to school and trust that if some serious happens to them, they will call someone to ensure the crime is reported.
I’ll be honest. I am so disgusted with what is happening to kids around the country. With bullying and prejudice obviously being ignored, it’s a wonder that our kids aren’t completely refusing to attend school. The result can be horrific when they do. Some of them have chosen suicide over school. What does that say about our society? So how do we feel about the parents who supported their son’s costume? I, for one, am proud of them. He will grow up feeling accepted for who he is.
And finally, something that reinforces to me that there are redeeming qualities about this country.