Wednesday, October 6, 2010

How Much Does One Have To Endure?

Another parent I know is facing one of the worst things a parent can face, the loss of a child. What makes this even worse is that they have already lost a child to a car accident four years ago. Their two boys were on their way to school when the one driving lost control of his truck and rolled it. He died while his little brother was able to walk away. What a tragedy. Then two years after that, their oldest, a daughter who is 25 and has her own little girl, was diagnosed with a brain tumor and it will not end well.

There were only a few people who showed up to my daughter’s visitation and funeral. This couple was one of the few. She wasn’t able to come to the funeral, but he was and he came to the funeral and to the graveside services. When the service was over and we were in the van waiting to leave, he came to my door. All he could do was lay his hand on my arm and look at me. He didn’t have to say anything. I knew he was hurting for us. I’ve never forgotten that.

At the time his son was killed, we weren’t able to go to the funeral. We live over 460 miles from where our daughter is buried. It’s in the family plot outside the town my husband grew up in. I wish we had been able to go. I would have felt like I had done something for them even though I knew I couldn’t. I already knew what they were going through at least in a way.

Now they are faced with the loss of another child from a hideous disease and all I can think is this. Why do they have to do through another loss? They are good people and have good kids. Why do they have to give another child away? The loss of a child is the worst thing to have to endure and to lose two is unimaginable.

I know this is a sad post, but I just had to write it out. It’s been eating away at me for some time now. Just this week they found out there isn’t much the doctors can do at this point. And it’s all I can think about these days.

1 comment:

  1. You sometimes wonder how much one human being can endure and why things happen how they do. This totally kills me inside. :( For them...and for you. Love you!