Monday, July 19, 2010

Tuesday Train

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It's here again! Yes, I'm trying to start another hop. What was I thinking? I love them so much I thought we needed another one. We'll see how it goes. I hope you all join. I've managed to snag 95 followers so far!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Think of how many you might get. If you all join, we would have a real shot at getting this off the ground. I’m looking forward to it. My daughter is co-hosting with me and she can be found at This Little Family. It’s a great blog that has really terrific giveaways and reviews.

The biggest happening around my house these days is in regards to my son. His fiancé, of over a year, broke up with him for the second time in the last few months and she refuses to sit down with him and have a real conversation about anything. To make it worse, she has been posting all of her new found freedom all over Facebook without any care that he may see it. Still worse, we found out something that happened a couple days after she dumped him that makes her seem less like a nice person and more like a girl looking for a good time.

The hardest part for me, outside of how it affects my son, is that we accepted her into the family. She was part of everything we did. This was even after the first time she did it. My son went back to her and to support him, we accepted her back without any reservation. She was talking with my daughter about the wedding plans just a few days before she decided to pull this again. The wedding dress is still in my closet because there was no other place to store it at the time. In fact, initially my husband put it on his card so she could get the one she wanted. After all that, she will not even speak to our son!

I am always amazed at how people can just act like nothing happened. I have the ability to talk and interact with people I really don’t like to the point they would never know it. I consider that to be an asset in business situations, but I can utilize it with people I know. The best example would be my other son’s ex stayed with us for 3 months and she’s the one who is the stalker. They were still together at the time and I was trying to be supportive of my son. (She’s the stalker). But these are different circumstances.

In regards to the girl who broke off the engagement, the difference is that I would NEVER be able to treat someone that did nothing to me the way she has been treating my son. There is no way I would just call it off without explanation. I would never just cut them off the way she has. That would be cruel. The other person has no idea what is going on or if they did something wrong. In this case, she has put all the blame on herself without accepting it. I know he isn’t perfect, but just a few days before, she was still planning the wedding and seemed very happy about it.

I know you all are saying it’s happened before to many other people. It doesn’t make it right and I feel it is the coward’s way out. Stand up and take responsibility for your own actions. If you want consideration and understanding for yourself, own up to it. Period. Enough said.

The best thing that happened though? My son's buddy from Colorado will be here mid-
August. She is awesome. She's flown in for Amanda's funeral and again when my son graduated. She always comes when it's needed. Imagine that.





4 comments:

  1. I have been noticing a trend in younger girls who make big decisions like that, they just completely avoid talking about the case at hand. ignoring it won't make it go away.

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  2. I have a hard time with this too. My cousin's wife has left him I don't know how many times and every time she comes back, we're all supposed to act like nothing happened. I don't get it.

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  3. We do it for the person we love Cecelia. I am convinced of that. We feel we are supporting them.

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  4. Ugh. I hate women like that. They're the women who give all of the rest of us a bad name.

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