I have been accused of showing favoritism to 2 of my grandkids. There are reasons why I talk about the two of them more than the others. I do not know them as well as I do the ones I post about. There is one person who would say it is entirely my fault but she would be wrong. In my defense, I have to say it is difficult to get to know a child when the parent of the children cannot stop being accusatory or thinking that I owe them when I do not.
Snide comments are not my cup of tea either. I do not care for them and I try not to use them. I do not control my son and for that I am held responsible. The list goes on. The bottom line for me is simple. If I get close to them, get to know them, and they are taken away because someone gets angry for some small reason, it will just about kill me. Losing a child is the hardest thing a parent will ever do. For my own sanity, I have to know that the person will not yank those kids away. I also need to know that I don’t have to go through an enormous amount of drama in the process. It taints everything, no matter what the other person thinks.
Those are my reasons. Take them or leave them, but remember, if things were different, I would know those kids.